New Year's Resolution- "pre-test" (the heart of the blog is at the end)

After being a Mega B... last week, I decided that for 2010 I would truly try to make one of my resolutions be this: If I think I will come off as a Mega B... (typically toward my husband, who is generally trying to be nice) then I should hold my tongue.
Today was a true test. Here are the circumstances:
1) Berk Family Christmas - one can generally guarantee 10-50 people at a Berk Family get together. I like people, at least I think I do, but it's times like these that I start to feel the walls closing in.
2) Hubs, who checked the road conditions every day this weekend when we didn't have any where to go- did not check the road conditions today.
3) Hubs decided to take the back Hwy to save miles instead of the more traveled Hwy.
4) Said back Hwy was snow packed/ice covered with blowing snow.

I don't think I have to elaborate... let's just say, I did better then one might expect. We made it to our location with semi-limited snide remarks from me. And I only bit off 2 heads upon arrival (one saw us walk half-way in the door and said I will hold the baby, to which I said NO, you will not hold the baby. I will. The other said about five minutes after our arrival- your baby is too little to not be taking naps. I gave her a seriously evil glare and said "She is FINE." plus she wasn't listening. We didn't say that she doesn't take naps... she does... and she really does well... What ev's! I don't mind some advice, but when someone blatantly tells you that you are doing something wrong and they don't know you or your situation- they can shove off!

Now to the real heart of this blog... We let stupid things, like the things sited in this blog get the best of us. We let other things control our lives and we worry about everything from bills, to work, to weather, to relationships, to dust on the back of the TV (ok, not so much of that). And we lose site of the most important things. All of our blessings. As I sit here and reflect I realize that I am lucky to have someone telling me how to raise my baby... when I have 2 close friends who just had that opportunity wrenched from them. Why do I have to reflect in order to see that? Why can't I think that in the moment? Maybe my New Year's Resolution will be this: When something upsets me, take a deep breath, smile and come back to it later. (that will be a challenge, but what is a Resolution that isn't a challenge?) When something pleases me, take a deep breath, really enjoy the moment, say a prayer of thanks and remember it later. (For example, something as simple as this: I started to cry while reflecting on this... my nose started to run, I stood up to get a kleenex and found one in my pocket (a clean one)) We are blessed in so many ways. I really could go on and on... and maybe I should start my list, but I think I have started to realize that even the things that we think are not blessings, really can be, when we look at them from another person's perspective...

For 2010, I will breathe.